Article by Dr. Jayashree Ramana

Many people find themselves in a never-ending and frustrating search for love. Either they do not find a partner or they find themselves in a series of unsatisfactory and unhappy relationships. Before I begin to pen down my thoughts on the subject, let us exclude the people who choose to stay single because of their spiritual pursuits or any other purpose.

Love is a natural instinct and desire

We have an inborn capacity to love ourselves and others too. At the same time, it is natural to expect love. However many people have a hard time finding love. This happens because of the hurt ‘inner child’. All of us adults have an inner child within us. So it isn’t unnatural for us to respond like a child in certain situations.

However, that inner child does not carry only the fondest memories, but also the pain, trauma and/or neglect. Such feelings are not limited to those who experienced major tragic events, family breakups or child abuse. These hurts could stem from even ordinary events because we are extremely vulnerable as children. E.g. a child never got to express her disappointment when her parents refused to take her to an ice-cream parlour when she wanted to celebrate her birthday. She held on to that defining moment in her life where the one she trusted the most failed her. Unintentionally this could become the root cause of her self-doubts or trust issues and cause a strain in her relationship with her parents or maybe future partner. Even a well-meaning advice could cause an emotional injury because children have not yet learnt how to process when something is denied to them.

The person carries the emotional injuries and the “the little child” turns into an adult who is weak and vulnerable inside but projects strength externally by using aggression as his ammunition. When left unaddressed, the inner child wounds result in some behavioral symptoms like self-harm, self-defeat, over aggression, poor body image. At times, it affects the relationships of a person through commitment issues, inability to trust oneself and others, and even addiction. So by healing yourself, you can tolerate distress and improve relationships without the display of rage or any such tactics, since you will not need that little “rebellious child” who felt dejected. This enhances confidence and raises your feeling of ‘self-worth’.

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By: Stef
Title: Attract Love in Your Life – Heal the Inner Child
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Published Date: Sat, 21 Nov 2020 05:05:11 +0000

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